“You are precious in my sight, and honoured, and I love you.”

John's Notes – Clapham Village Newsletter, February 2022

“You are precious in my sight, and honoured, and I love you,” says God to you and me, and all created beings (in Isaiah 43.4).

In human society our understandings of identity, sexuality, relationships and marriage are always shifting; and in our own society these understandings have radically altered over recent decades.  For some, the Church has been frustratingly slow to respond in kind to a more open, inclusive approach to these issues; for others the Church’s very slowness is a blessing, for it offers the rarity of time to enable us to more fully, deeply consider the issues and our response, in heart and mind and in practice, to the challenges of different perspectives, to create space for mutual flourishing.

The church has been debating these questions for a long time; the focus and terms of the discussion shifting over time between gender equality, sexuality and marriage. The underlying question for Christians remains the same: how do these questions fit within the bigger picture of the good news of Jesus Christ – or what he himself termed ‘The Kingdom of God’, the way of God at work in the world.

In discussions which can too easily become polarising between extreme points of view, in more recent times a focus has been on creating a culture in which people can hold very different points of view whilst dialoguing together supportively, affirming each other’s created uniqueness. And so the emphasis in Living in Love and Faith is to ask us to face all these challenges hopefully and to consider, what does it mean to live in love and faith together as a Church?

The late Archbishop Desmond Tutu once said, “We are made for goodness. We are made for love. We are made for friendliness. We are made for togetherness. We are made for all of the beautiful things that you and I know. We are made to tell the world that there are no outsiders. All are welcome: black, white, red, yellow, rich, poor, educated, not educated, male, female, gay, straight, all, all, all. We all belong to this family, this human family, God's family.” The Christian way of life (in common with many other religious practices) is rooted in the uncompromising pursuit of unconditional love for each and all.

Living in Love and Faith is the title of a series of meetings in Lent, run by the churches of the Bowland and Ewecross Deanery (ie all the Anglican parishes from Ingleton and Bentham via Slaidburn to Gargrave and Kirkby Malham), in which those taking part will each bring their own life story – experiences, perspectives, joys and concerns – into an affirming, supportive discussion; an open conversation without fear of censure or criticism.

Those who have taken part in Living in Love and Faith courses elsewhere speak of the good experience of listening well to, at times ‘disagreeing well’ with, and being well-listened-to by people quite different to themselves, and many good lessons learned from interactions they might never otherwise have if stuck in their own social ‘bubble’.

The Living in Love and Faith meetings will take place between 7.30-9.00pm in person at Settle Parish Church on Tuesday evenings March 1, 8, 15, 22, 29, and April 5, or on Zoom if preferred… and you are very welcome to join. Find out more at bit.ly/livinglovefaith or from Revd John Davies at john.davies@leeds.anglican.org, 01524 805928.

The excellent, in-depth Living in Love and Faith book is accompanied by a range of free digital resources including films, podcasts and an online library, together with Living in Love and Faith: The Course, and a Pastoral Principles course booklet, which together will form the basis of our course sessions. Each are published by Church House Publishing: https://www.chpublishing.co.uk/features/living-in-love-and-faith, 01603 785925.

You are precious in my sight, and honoured, and I love you

Churches Weekly Newsletter, 23 January 2022

“You are precious in my sight, and honoured, and I love you,” says God to you and me, and all created beings (in Isaiah 43.4).

In human society our understandings of identity, sexuality, relationships and marriage are always shifting; and in our own society these understandings have radically altered over recent decades.  For some, the Church has been frustratingly slow to respond in kind to a more open, inclusive approach to these issues; for others the Church’s very slowness is a blessing, for it offers the rarity of time to enable us to more fully, deeply consider the issues and our response, in heart and mind and in practice, to the challenges of different perspectives, to create space for mutual flourishing. 

The church has been debating these questions for a long time; the focus and terms of the discussion shifting over time between gender equality, sexuality and marriage. The underlying question for Christians remains the same: how do these questions fit within the bigger picture of the good news of Jesus Christ – or what he himself termed ‘The Kingdom of God’, the way of God at work in the world.

In discussions which can too easily become polarising between extreme points of view, in more recent times a focus has been on creating a culture in which people can hold very different points of view whilst dialoguing together supportively, affirming each other’s created uniqueness. And so the emphasis in Living in Love and Faith is to ask us to face all these challenges hopefully and to consider, what does it mean to live in love and faith together as a Church?

The late Archbishop Desmond Tutu once said, “We are made for goodness. We are made for love. We are made for friendliness. We are made for togetherness. We are made for all of the beautiful things that you and I know. We are made to tell the world that there are no outsiders. All are welcome: black, white, red, yellow, rich, poor, educated, not educated, male, female, gay, straight, all, all, all. We all belong to this family, this human family, God's family.” The Christian way of life (in common with many other religious practices) is rooted in the uncompromising pursuit of unconditional love for each and all.

Living in Love and Faith is the title of a series of meetings in Lent, run by the churches of the Bowland and Ewecross Deanery (ie all the Anglican parishes from Ingleton and Bentham via Slaidburn to Gargrave and Kirkby Malham), in which those taking part will each bring their own life story – experiences, perspectives, joys and concerns – into an affirming, supportive discussion; an open conversation without fear of censure or criticism. 

Those who have taken part in Living in Love and Faith courses elsewhere speak of the good experience of listening well to, at times ‘disagreeing well’ with, and being well-listened-to by people quite different to themselves, and many good lessons learned from interactions they might never otherwise have if stuck in their own social ‘bubble’.

The Living in Love and Faith meetings will take place between 7.30-9.00pm in person at Settle Parish Church on Tuesday evenings March 1, 8, 15, 22, 29, and April 5, or on Zoom if preferred… and you are very welcome to join. Find out more at bit.ly/livinglovefaith or from me at john.davies@leeds.anglican.org, 01524 805928. 

The excellent, in-depth Living in Love and Faith book is accompanied by a range of free digital resources including films, podcasts and an online library, together with Living in Love and Faith: The Course, and a Pastoral Principles course booklet, which together will form the basis of our course sessions. Each are published by Church House Publishing: https://www.chpublishing.co.uk/features/living-in-love-and-faith, 01603 785925.

If you attended such a meeting, what might you bring to it from your own experience of identity, sexuality, relationships and marriage, and your understanding of the Christian faith? What might you hope to learn from others? “You are precious in my sight, and honoured, and I love you.” It would be great to see you there.

From exile to the slow repair of our social fabric: creating space for recovery

Nehemiah 8.1-10, Luke 4.14-21

The Third Sunday of Epiphany, 23 January 2022 

Austwick, Keasden

Let us take some time today to think about the experience of people in exile – and how they find restoration as their exile comes to an end.

Our scriptures tell the story of the people of Judah who were exiled to Babylon in the sixth century BC, their trauma so vividly captured by their well-known words in Psalm 137, ‘By the rivers of Babylon – there we sat down and there we wept when we remembered Zion…. For there our captors asked us for songs, and our tormentors asked for mirth, saying, ‘Sing us one of the songs of Zion!’ How could we sing the Lord’s song in a strange land?’ [1]

When the Persians deposed the Babylonians sixty years later, their King Cyrus decreed that the Judaean exiles could return home and that the ruined Jerusalem Temple should be rebuilt. The story of the restoration of the exiles is told in the books of Ezra and Nehemiah, Nehemiah being a key figure in the physical rebuilding of Judah, and Ezra, a priest, being central to the cultural, emotional, spiritual restoration of the people – as captured in today’s episode, in which Ezra reintroduces the books of the law to the gathered crowds, and a large number of volunteer leaders assist him in explaining their meaning to the people.

What is the experience of people in exile – and how may they find restoration as their exile comes to an end? This is a vital question for today, for we live in a world of exiles, and I suggest, our own recent experiences through this pandemic have made exiles of us all. 

The latest UN figures give that at the end of 2020, 82.4 million people worldwide were forcibly displaced as a result of persecution, conflict, violence, human rights violations or public order disturbances. And during the pandemic we ourselves have been through a population-wide trauma, one which has not yet come to an end, a trauma which largely consists of the effects of our being, let’s say exiled, from the people, places, and community, the ways of life which had previously given us the deepest sense of ourselves. With our face coverings on and safely socially distanced, how can we sing the Lord’s song in a land which has become strange to us? And how shall we best prepare ourselves for an end to this physical, emotional, cultural, spiritual exile? [2]

Two of the greatest spiritual leaders and teachers of our times are also amongst the world’s best known exiles. During the 1959 uprising following China’s annexation of Tibet, for fear of arrest the Dalai Lama escaped from Lhasa and has spent the past 60 years leading the Tibetan people from exile in Daramasala, India. And his great friend the late Archbishop Desmond Tutu experienced with all black South Africans the trauma of what might be called the internal exile of apartheid which excluded them from full participation in their own society. [3]

Like Ezra and Nehemiah of old these two great leaders have looked exile squarely in the face, understood its effects, embraced its pain, and devoted themselves to restoring the physical, emotional, cultural, and spiritual life of their people – and of all people whether exiled from their own land or existentially exiled in a state of being where they cannot flourish, even in their own place. How have they been able to maintain their compassion and forgiveness in the face of great suffering? What might they teach us as we seek to recover from our present communal trauma?

I’m struck by the similarities between Ezra’s restorative gathering in Jerusalem and the occasion of the Dalai Lama’s 80th birthday which he celebrated back in 2016 with his invited guest Desmond Tutu at the Tibetan Children’s Village in Daramasala, a community in exile of 2,000 orphans, destitutes and refugee children from Tibet, who are cared for and educated there. [4]

I’m struck by how the people wept when they heard Ezra reciting the words of the law. Were these tears of sorrow for the lost years spent serving other gods in Babylon? In the same way how the children of the Tibetan Children’s Village wept as they shared their stories with their respected visitors: memories of crossing the Nepalese border when just five years old; the pain of having no contact with family for the past thirteen years; a mother’s floods of tears after saying goodbye.

Each of these children went on to testify joyfully of how their education in the Tibetan Children’s Village has helped them find meaning and comfort beyond their trauma; of how that learning community helped them move from painful loss to a place of joy. Later the Dalai Lama said, ‘Education is universal. We must teach people, especially our youth, the source of happiness and satisfaction. We must teach them that the ultimate source of satisfaction is within themselves.’ [5] 

Notice how Ezra and the Levites, his helpers, ‘gave the sense’ to the words of the law, so that the people understood the reading, and the people’s tears turned to joy, from a groundswell of  remembrance of those life-giving words which had been lost to them in exile but now were found. Could education be central to our society’s task of rebuilding from our place of loss? If so, let us take note of Ezra’s method of teaching: which depended on countless others, particularly the community’s elders, playing their part in interpreting to the young the restorative values of old.

Nehemiah’s rebuilding work was a collaborative effort, and Ezra’s spiritual renewal of the people of Judah began in a gathering of hundreds. Likewise was the defeat of apartheid the work of black and white South Africans together, and the Tibetan Children’s Village is a further sign that the task of moving from exile to restoration is a burden and a joy which the whole community must share.

Dr Brandon Kohrt, a professor of psychiatry dealing with the mental health aftermath of major disasters, says that ‘With population-wide trauma, … we heal socially. Being together when the awful thing happens and then healing together is really crucial.’ [6]

Finally, let us note how Ezra’s presentation began when he ‘blessed the Lord, the great God, and all the people answered, ‘Amen, Amen’’. The life’s work of the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Tutu is likewise rooted in the worshipful, meditative practices of their respective traditions. The Buddhist rises at 3am to spend hours in prayer whilst the Christian celebrated eucharist daily, whether in an airport lounge or in his tiny chapel at home. Might it be that the best place for us to begin to re-shape our lives out of our present experience of exile is the place of prayer and contemplation? 

Journalist Amanda Ripley, who investigates how people react in a crisis, says of the pandemic, that ‘in this type of slow disaster’ we are experiencing, ‘a disaster which keeps going on and on’, ’there’s not enough space for recovery’, so ‘we have to create it’. [7]

I think that’s exactly what we’re doing here today, gathered together: creating space for recovery. Imagine yourself taking what you learn from our prayers and scriptures and spiritual songs, our communion, and sharing your learning with those around you, bit by bit, week by week; and imagine yourself thus witnessing the slow but steady repair of the social fabric of our community.

 

Notes

[1] Psalm 137.

[2] UNHCR, the UN Refugee Agency, Figures at a glance. Accessed 18 January 2022; Rebecca Seal, Life after lockdown: how do we best recover from the pandemic? Observer, 16 January 2022.

[3] Wikipedia: 14th_Dalai_Lama.

[4] Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu with Douglas Abrams, The Book of Joy: lasting happiness of a world of change. The birthday visit to the school is described in the chapter Celebration: Dancing in the Streets of Tibet, p.277-290.

[5] Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu with Douglas Abrams, The Book of Joy: lasting happiness of a world of change. p.297

[6] Rebecca Seal, Life after lockdown: how do we best recover from the pandemic? Observer, 16 January 2022.

[7] Rebecca Seal, Life after lockdown: how do we best recover from the pandemic? Observer, 16 January 2022.

 

Water into wine: the astonishing generosity of God in a world of scarcity

Isaiah 62.1-5, John 2.1-11

The Second Sunday of Epiphany, 16 January 2022

Clapham, Eldroth

In recent weeks we’ve been following the Magi, those wise travellers bringing all their esoteric and scientific knowledge together with a keen grasp of the geopolitics of their day, and most of all their sincere devoutness, into their journey to Herod’s Jerusalem, then on to pay homage to Mary and Joseph’s child at Bethlehem, then home by another way. It’s a story which shines like the guiding star itself, with joy and hope in the face of the dark forces in the world.

We’ve been following the Magi, and now today we turn to follow The Magician, the still-youthful Jesus, still Mary’s son rather than the firebrand prophet, transformational teacher and loving healer he would soon become. The Magician: many think of him this way for this, the first and maybe the most universally celebrated of his miracles, the turning of the water into wine at a wedding-feast at Cana of Galilee. This story fixes Jesus at the heart of human life, affirming that God is present with us in every social celebration, sharing the pleasure and the joy. It’s a story which shows that Christ sees practical needs when they arise and seeks to help those who are struggling with them; it’s a story which at a deeper level reveals the astonishing generosity of God in a world of scarcity.

You may have heard me preach on this passage before, thinking about the effects on the wedding’s organisers when they saw that the wine was running out. Imagine their anxiety, their fear of losing face for hosting a party which fizzled out too early. It’s the last thing a couple want, for their wedding party which they’ve so caringly planned for so long, to go wrong. Jesus stepped in to save them from their embarrassment and social shame. [1]

And by magically replenishing the drink supply Jesus also saved the bar staff, the caterers – the servants and the steward of this story. Whether or not it was their fault, they would have got the blame and took the shame when the wine ran out. Maybe not got paid; or even fired from their jobs. Think of the effect on their livelihood, and their credibility in the community. Jesus stepped in to save them from being pilloried for their wrongdoing.

The astonishing generosity of God in a world of scarcity – it’s more than just a pleasing fantasy; it’s an article of our faith which relates so closely to our human condition at all times, and our social condition in these scarce times we are living through.

Let’s spare a thought for those couples who for the past two years have been trying to arrange their weddings, and time and again have been hit with restrictions meaning dates have become unavailable and numbers of guests drastically limited; finding that the shrinking amount of available venues have been booked out before they got to them, or that their caterers had gone out of business or their food suppliers couldn’t guarantee the meals they had ordered. You may know a couple who gave up on a gathering of family and friends and took their nuptials to the registrars office with just a couple of loved ones present. You may know of couples who’ve given up on the idea of marriage at all for now, until things settle down again, if things ever settle down again. 

And let’s spare a thought for the caterers and the hoteliers, the cake-makers and the wedding outfitters, the chauffeurs and the celebrants – yes, even the churches, for like all these others, our PCC income these past two years has shrunk through the loss of wedding fees. 

We are living through a time of scarcity, and it hurts. You don’t need me to repeat the statistics on staff shortages in hospitals and in industry, for you hear them every day. And you’ve no doubt also got on your mind concerns over the increasing fuel prices, due to high demand and lower supplies. We’re all aware that it’s not as easy as it used to be to walk into a grocers and get everything we want, for many things only appear unpredictably these days. Of course, the unavailability of artichoke hearts and flageolet beans won’t much concern people living on the breadline in the UK and overseas. But all this growing scarcity does give rise to a sense that things are not as they were… and to those with the most vivid imaginations, these are early signs that the end of our civilisation is on the way.

When our fears and anxieties rise, other things become more scarce: like our goodwill and generosity towards others. We see it locally; we see it globally. Applauding NHS staff and taking care not to overburden them – that was so 2020; as was supporting campaigns to make vaccines more readily available in the poorest of countries. This year we’re far more into doing our own thing regardless of the effects on others: like partygoers noticing the wine running out and smuggling a couple of bottles under our table to make sure that we’ll be able to keep partying for longer than everyone else.

In this situation many feel forsaken, for the help they once expected from the authorities is no longer available, and after a friendly period their neighbours have gone back to keeping themselves to themselves. And across the world lands are looking desolate; our greed to squeeze the very last out of the earth’s resources is turning rainforests into deserts and wheat fields into floodplains.

But remember Isaiah, who surprised his similarly troubled people by telling them that ‘in the hand of your God… you shall no more be termed Forsaken, and your land shall no more be termed Desolate; but you shall be called My Delight Is in Her, and your land Married; for the Lord delights in you, and your land shall be married. For as a young man marries a young woman, so shall your builder (God) marry you, and as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your God rejoice over you.’ [2]

When God sees people suffering scarcity his response is to renew, restore, replenish, with extraordinary generosity, loving us with just the same intensity of love that a newly-wed couple have for each other. God invites us to respond to this great love by using our resources to live generously towards others. 

This might mean us giving things away, giving up some of the privileges we’ve always been lucky enough to enjoy. It may involve us in the self-sacrifice of protest: campaigning to change the structures of society which create scarcity and permit a few to thrive on its profits. We may not have the powers of Jesus to magic new things out of nothing. But we can use what we have – our property, possessions and gifts of personality – for the renewal of life and the increase of love in our world.

This can sound scary, the prospect of helping other people suffering scarcity by giving bits of ourselves away. But let’s think about it in terms of how newly-weds enter the experience of marriage prepared to give something of themselves away for the sake of the other in the partnership. Let’s think of how that bit of self-sacrifice brings so many greater benefits to them and those around them in growing love and mutual flourishing. 

The whole wide world is a wedding-feast. God joins us all together, to build each other up.

 

Notes

[1] Jesus: One for the community. Preached in Somerset, 2016 and on previous occasions.

[2] Isaiah 62.4-5.

We follow the light – Epiphany talk and prayers

Isaiah 60.1-6, Matthew 2.1-12

The Epiphany (transferred), 9 January 2022

Austwick, Keasden

We follow the light – we star-gazers

searching the skies for signs of motion in the heavens:

God dancing; planets spinning; meteors soaring;

stars on odd trajectories catching the eye.

 

We follow the light – we sages

Seeking truth in odd corners of the hostile earth:

Where God has been quietened and people are frightened,

creatures ill-treated and trees uprooted;

trusting our instinct that light will still shine in the dark.

 

We follow the light – we rich ones

Blessed with well-being throughout our lives,

wealthy with love and friendship and the world’s possessions.

Having been given much, we bear gifts to hold up to the light,

to give in dedication to the Light who we trust will guide our path.

 

Like those visitors who followed the star from the East which stopped over the place where the child was, can we make this our prayer today – that we follow the light, the light who moves the heavens, the light who shines into the darkest corners of our hostile world, the light who guides our path in changing and challenging times.

Isaiah looked around him and saw ‘darkness covering the earth, and thick darkness the peoples’; it may be that when we look around at our broken earth, our troubled nations, our conflicted society, we see that too.

But Isaiah looked to the heavens and through the eyes of faith saw the Lord arising  on the people, his glory appearing over them. With joy in his heart and a zest in his voice he told them, ‘Arise, shine; for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord has risen upon you… Nations shall come to your light, and kings to the brightness of your dawn.’

We come to church at Epiphany because we are looking for the light. Christ, who once said, ‘I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.’

We come in faith – that whatever depresses our spirits can be extinguished by the light;

We come in hope – that every good destroyed in our world can be restored by the light;

We come in love – for of all the gifts the light gives to us to share, the greatest of them is love.

So I invite you to join me now in the sort of prayerful action which those wise travellers undertook in Bethlehem all those years ago. I invite you to make a  prayerful offering of a candle lit up with the prayers of your own heart, prayers for yourself, for those close to you, for our community and our world. A gift of worship offered to our Lord, the Light.

 

Prayer 

I will light a candle this Epiphany. 

A candle of joy despite all the sadness, 

a candle of hope where despair keeps watch, 

a candle of courage for fears ever present, 

a candle of peace for tempest-tossed days, 

a candle of grace to ease heavy burdens, 

a candle of love to inspire all my living, 

a candle that will burn all year long. Amen [1]

So as we sing the hymn ‘Christ be our light’ [2] let us bring our candles forward to light them alongside the gifts which the wise men have brought….

 

 

Notes

[1] Prayer based on Howard Thurman,  I Will Light Candles this Christmas from The Mood of Christmas & Other Celebrations, Friends United Press 2011.

[2] Christ be our light. Bernadette Farrell © 1993, 2000, Published by OCP (Oregon Catholic Press)